Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

by By:  Lori Gottlieb

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“Rarely have I read a book that challenged me to see myself in an entirely new light, and was at the same time laugh-out-loud funny and utterly absorbing.” — Katie Couric 


“This is a daring, delightful, and transformative book.” — Arianna Huffington, founder, Huffington Post, and founder & CEO, Thrive Global 


“Wise, warm, smart, and funny. You must read this book.” — Susan Cain, New York Times best-selling author of Quiet 


From a New York Times best-selling author, psychotherapist, and national advice columnist, a hilarious, thought-provoking, and surprising new book that takes us behind the scenes of a therapist’s world—where her patients are looking for answers (and so is she) 


One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose of­fice she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but. 


As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients’ lives—a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can’t stop hooking up with the wrong guys—she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell. 


With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. 


Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is rev­olutionary in its candor, offering a deeply per­sonal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly reveal­ing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them.

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  • Format: Paperback

  • ISBN-13/EAN: 9780358299233

  • ISBN-10: 0358299233

  • Pages: 432

  • Price: $16.99

  • Publication Date: 05/19/2020

  • Carton Quantity: 24

Lori Gottlieb

Lori Gottlieb

LORI GOTTLIEB is a psychotherapist and New York Times best-selling author who writes the Atlantic's weekly Dear Therapist advice column. A contributing editor for the Atlantic, she also writes for the New York Times Magazine and appears as a frequent expert on mental health in media such as Today,Good Morning America,CBS This Morning, CNN, and NPR. Learn more at or by following her @LoriGottlieb1 on Twitter.
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    *A People Book of the Week* 

    *A New York Times Editors’ Choice* 

    *An O, The Oprah Magazine's Best Nonfiction Book of 2019* 

    *An IndieNext Pick* 

    *A Book of the Month Club Extra* 

    *An Apple Best Book of the Month* 

    *An Amazon Best Book of the Month and Books with Buzz Pick* 

    *A Publishers Marketplace Buzz Book* 

    *A Newsday, Apple iBooks, Thrive Global, Refinery29, and Book Riot Most Anticipated Book of 2019* 


    “An addictive book that’s part Oliver Sacks and part Nora Ephron. Prepare to be riveted.” 

    People, Book of the Week 


    “Entirely reframes the way we think about psychotherapy . . . Movingly depicts our collective longing for lasting connection.” 

    — Entertainment Weekly 


    “Gottlieb’s book is perhaps the first I’ve read that explains the therapeutic process in no-nonsense terms while simultaneously giving hope to therapy skeptics like me who think real change through talk is elusive.” 

    — Judith Newman, New York Times 


    “A psychotherapist and advice columnist at the Atlantic shows us what it’s like to be on both sides of the couch with doses of heartwarming humor and invaluable, tell-it-like-it-is wisdom.” 

    O, The Oprah Magazine 


    “Authentic . . . raw . . . An irresistibly candid and addicting memoir about psychotherapeutic practice as experienced by both the clinician and the patient.” 

    New York Times  


    “Provocative and entertaining . . . Gottlieb gives us more than a voyeuristic look at other people’s problems (including her own). She shows us the value of therapy.” 

    — Washington Post 


    “A delightful, fascinating dive into human behavior and idiosyncrasies, habits and defenses, fears and blind spots: hers, her patients’, yours and mine.” 

    — Chicago Tribune 


    “This relatable memoir reminds us that many of our struggles are universal and just plain human.” 

    — Real Simple 


    “[In the end, Gottlieb and her patients] are more aware—of themselves as people, of the choices they’ve made, and of the choices they could go on to make . . . It’s exploration—genuinely wanting to learn answers to the question Why am I like this?, so that maybe, through better understanding of what you’re doing, you figure out how to be who you want to become.” 

    — Slate 


    “A no-holds-barred look at how therapy works.” 



    “Who could resist watching a therapist grapple with the same questions her patients have been asking her for years? Gottlieb, who writes the Atlantic’s Dear Therapist column, brings searing honesty to her search for answers.” 

    — Washington Post 


    “Reading it is like one long therapy session—and may be the gentle nudge you need to start seeing a therapist again IRL.” 



    “In her memoir, best-selling author, columnist, and therapist Lori Gottlieb explores her own issues—and discovers just how similar they are to the problems of her clients.” 



    “In prose that’s conversational and funny yet deeply insightful, psychologist Lori Gottlieb is here to remind us that our therapists are people, too.” 



    “Provocative and entertaining . . . Gottlieb gives us more than a voyeuristic look at other people’s problems (including her own). She shows us the value of therapy.” 

    Washington Post    


    The Atlantic’s Dear Therapist columnist offers a startlingly revealing tour of the therapist’s life, examining her relationships with her patients, her own therapist, and various figures in her personal life.” 

    — Entertainment Weekly, 20 New Books to Read in April 


    “Reads like a novel and reveals what really happens on both sides of the couch.” 

    — Men’s Health  


    “A most satisfying and illuminating read for psychotherapy patients, their therapists, and all the rest of us.” 

    New York Journal of Books 


    “A fascinating, funny, behind-the-scenes look at what happens when people—even shrinks themselves—‘break open,’ with the help of a therapist.” 

    — Shondaland 


    “[Maybe You Should Talk to Someone] explores the ups and downs of life with humor and grace.” 



    “Both poignant and laugh-out-loud funny, [Gottlieb] reveals how our stories form the core of our lives.” 

    Orange County Register 


    “In her compassionate and emotionally generous new book, Gottlieb . . . pulls back the curtain of a therapist’s world. . . The result is a humane and empathetic exploration of six disparate characters struggling to take control of their lives as they journey back to happiness.” 

    — ALA’s Public Libraries Online  


    “[A] smart, hilarious, insightful book. Lori Gottlieb will have you laughing and crying as she breaks down the problems of her patients, her therapist and herself.” 



    “Saturated with self-awareness and compassion, this is an irresistibly addictive tour of the human condition.” 

    Kirkus Reviews, starred review 


    “Written with grace, humor, wisdom, and compassion, this [is a] heartwarming journey of self-discovery.” 

    — Library Journal 


    “The coup de grace is Gottlieb’s vulnerability with her own therapist. Some readers will know Gottlieb from her many TV appearances or her Dear Therapist column, but even for the uninitiated-to-Gottlieb, it won’t take long to settle in with this compelling read.” 



    “Sparkling . . . Gottlieb portrays her patients, as well as herself as a patient, with compassion, humor, and grace.” 

    Publishers Weekly 

    “An entertaining, relatable, and moving homage to therapy—and being human. We’re all in this together, folks—something this book hits home.” 

    Amazon Book Review    


    “Warm, approachable and funny—a pleasure to read.” 



    “Heartwarming and upbeat, this memoir demystifies therapy and celebrates the human spirit.” 

    Shelf Awareness 


    “Therapists play a special and invaluable role in the lives of the 30 million Americans

Available Resources

Related Categories

  • Format: Paperback

  • ISBN-13/EAN: 9780358299233

  • ISBN-10: 0358299233

  • Pages: 432

  • Price: $16.99

  • Publication Date: 05/19/2020

  • Carton Quantity: 24

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